WE’RE HAVING A GIRL!!!!

WE’RE HAVING A GIRL!!!! Yes, you read it right….I have my THIRD girl on the way, due February 2019. We decided to take it old school and just find out the sex at our 20 week appointment. I was in no rush to find out considering this is my third pregnancy, I know these days you can find out the gender super early. I just wanted to enjoy the first half of my pregnancy pressure free lol. We also didn’t do a gender reveal, I know such a shocker in 2018 lol, but we just had a baby 1.5 years ago where we did all that so I figured this time around we would be more lowkey. We just found out at the doctor’s appointment like people used to do in the stone ages haha.

I must admit, I wasn’t shocked at all when the ultrasound tech revealed that we were having another girl. I would’ve been way more shocked if she would’ve said boy. This pregnancy hasn’t been the complete opposite of my others so I had a hunch it could be another girl. I have been more exhausted and in a little more pain but I blame that on this being the third time my body has had to go through the grueling process of pregnancy. Second time in the past two years.

A little part of me did like the slight idea of having a son. It would’ve given us two boys and two girls which I thought would’ve been perfect. (I have an amazing “bonus” son if you aren’t aware) If I’m completely transparent, my husband and I both went through a few days of feeling gender disappointment. Neither one of us said it but I could totally tell. I felt pressure more from others than myself to have a boy, considering I already had two girls. After announcing we were expecting again, all I’ve been hearing for the past 4.5 months is “well hopefully it’s a boy” in some way, shape, or form. Can people stop doing this by the way! I won’t go on a whole rant because that’s a post by itself but we all know people don’t have any control over the gender if you’re getting pregnant naturally. So let’s stop with the unnecessary gender remarks to pregnant women. Always think twice about if what you’re saying to a pregnant woman is encouraging.

I randomly listened to a sermon by Heather Lindsey titled “Identity Crisis” a week or so ago, not knowing she would briefly mention anything about people having gender disappointments when expecting. She spoke about how studies show that babies can feel/sense what their mothers are feeling while they are in the womb. And how we can plant seeds in our offspring of not being wanted or disappointment even while they are still in the womb. And she specifically used the example of couples having gender disappointment. I was blown away because that reminder came at the perfect timing. God has a way of sending us gentle reminders of things even when we aren’t looking for it. I don’t believe in coincidences. I believe God is very intentional and that He was speaking to me through Heather at the very moment. I immediately felt convicted. I would never want my baby girl to feel like me and her dad were disappointed that she way on the way. It’s crazy that we put so much value on gender when we are blessed with healthy pregnancies or even being able to get pregnant. I know there’s some women who could care less about gender, all they want is the blessing of motherhood.

After just only a few days of being disappointed I became super excited about welcoming my third daughter. And let’s just be honest, if you know me personally, I think we can all agree I was born to be a girl mom. It comes so naturally to me. I love all things girly. I have a huge heart for women and them being who God has called them to be. I literally got teary eyed one night while praying and thanking God that He sees me fit to raise three women of God. What an honor! I believe girls having a sense of self worth and value starts at home. Them being confident, hardworking, keepers of the home, Godly wives, mothers, and friends all starts with the example that their mother’s set. I’m excited and so up for the challenge.

I believe that God puts us situations in certain stages of our lives that can heal us from other stages of our lives. My husband is the BEST girl dad there is. Channing is the ultimate daddy’s girl. When he enters the room she immediately forgets about anyone else in the room. His relationship with her has been so healing to watch considering that me and my dad didn’t become close until later in my life. I’m grateful that my girls won’t have to go to other things to fill a void from their dad not being present. I also didn’t get super close to my one and only sister until later in life as well. We are BFF’s now, but that wasn’t our story when we were younger. I’m looking forward to raising my three daughters to have a Christ centered relationship with each other. I’m grateful that they’ll have lifelong best friends no matter what. Lastly, I’m grateful that I can have a mother-daughter relationship with my girls that I’ve always wanted with my mom. My mom is AMAZING! She seriously was/is the best mom. But once I became grown we didn’t transition into the best friend relationship, it’s still more of a mother/daughter relationship. God is literally using each one of my daughters to heal me.

I’m also grateful for the gift of my son that I was blessed with the day I said “I do” to my husband. He entered my life when he was 3 years old so I’ll be able to play a big part in raising him. If anyone can handle all these sisters it’s him. Although, he was desperate for a brother. Sorry Deuce!

Thanks for being on this motherhood journey with me. Thanks for all the encouraging words you guys continually give me and my family. Let the matching outfits continue and multiply!! Girl moms feel free to leave all advice, suggestions, or funny stories below!

As always…Love you all,

Courtney N. Williams