This is for those of you that desire a relationship that leads to marriage. No matter how the relationship starts (through Instagram like my husband and I’s 😊 or in person) it’s very important that you are upfront & honest about what you want in the very beginning. A lot of women are afraid of coming off as desperate by mentioning their desire for marriage early on but if he is serious about being committed, your frankness shouldn’t run him off. It’s better to figure out you aren’t on the same page early than 2+ years of “talking” leading nowhere. Clear communication also makes for a smoother path to “I Do.” I was very upfront with my now husband, Bryan, from the beginning. I remember we had only been conversing for maybe a few days when I told him “DO NOT waste my time.” I was in a situation before meeting Bryan where the guy talked a good talk but his actions didn’t back up his smooth words. When it was all said and done I just ended up with hurt feelings and what felt like a bunch of time wasted. I knew from that point on I would be completely transparent from the beginning, state that my purpose in dating was ultimately marriage, and I should be pursued as such.
Not only was I upfront from the beginning, so was Bryan. Clear intentions should be made by both people involved. There’s just this sense of peace while courting when both the one pursuing and the one being pursued have the same motive. It’s very easy to tell by someone’s actions if the words that are coming out of their mouth are genuine. When Bryan and I first started courting we lived 5.5 hours away from each other in two different states. It was nothing for Bryan to hop up and make a 5.5hour drive to spend time with me over the weekend. Keep in mind he had to leave at like 4am on Sunday’s every time he visited due to him working for a church at that time. His actions showed me that he was intentional about us going somewhere.
Bryan and I went on our very first date exactly a week after he reached out to me showing interest. We felt an instant connection and knew early on that this could be it for us. About three months after our first date we made it “official.” We were clear on the fact that we were “courting” or exclusively dating. 9 months after making it clear our relationship was exclusive Bryan asked for my hand in marriage. 7 months after that we were married! Whew! We were clearly INTENTIONAL.
I realize everyone’s story won’t look exactly like ours or move as quickly as ours. I share our journey just to give an example of how things can go when two people are committed to dating with a purpose. Not that our courting phase was without its challenges but we truly saw God’s favor on us due to being intentional in our courtship. Which I believe is the way God intended for it to be.
Even if you both don’t have the perfect jobs, bank accounts full of money, or know how everything is going to work out don’t let that stop you from dating with a purpose. Don’t allow society, family, friends, coworkers, the enemy or whoever else try to convince you that you two should have everything all together before thinking about the end goal, which is marriage. Just put your faith in God and He WILL work it everything out for His glory.
“Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so?” Amos 3:3
I pray this blesses you all in some way, shape, or form.
As always,
I love you All!
Courtney N. Williams
Thank you for sharing Courtney this post was very encouraging and helpful to me.
You’re so welcome. I’m glad you were encouraged. Thanks for reading!
Physical appearance isn’t everything but it’s definitely something …. love this.. my new motto …. I always leave the house looking a hot mess … gotta do bettee
haha yayyy glad you enjoyed it. Thanks for reading!
This! ❤️🙌🏾
Great reaf
Thanks so much for reading!
Amen to this 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
This is really amazing. 👍👍👍
I live in Nigeria where social approval is everything, an elaborate wedding ceremony to please people and all, Am happy to have come across this, tho am 20… But when i want to date… Its gonna be with a purpose….. I celebrate you ma’am
Thanks so much for reading honey!
Another great post, giving lots of hope to us ladies who are where you once were!
I’m so proud of you! Glad that I witnessed your testimony first hand. Keep sharing the good news of God! Another amazing post 💜
Thanks so much for the support friend! Love you
Thank you for this refreshing reminder.
You’re so welcome! Thanks for reading!
Thanks for sharing, this has been helpful.
So glad it helped!! Thanks for reading!
Thank you for sharing!! Very motivating!!
You’re so welcome. Thanks for reading!
Love this post!! Great reminder!!
Thanks for reading!!!
Amen! My boyfriend and I are waiting until marriage and were very transparent about our purpose in dating as well. I will admit is a struggle to want to be married after almost two years of dating without solid finances, however, we both love each other and we both know everything will happen in God’s timing.
Amen. Thanks for reading honey